I am a major dreamer.
In high school, I was awarded the “head in the clouds” award in my final year. I didn’t even know we were doing funny awards which may be a case in point.
While I think it’s very important to dream, often times dreaming gets in the way of doing. And doing is important too.
A couple of months ago I read what I found to be a very helpful article on The Biggest Reasons You Haven’t Changed Your Habits by Leo Babauta (author of the blog Zen Habits).
What stuck out for me was his fourth point. The idea is that a major reason you are not changing a habit could be that you have some unrealistic idea in your head of what would happen if you were to make that change. When that doesn’t happen, you give up.
If you’re a dreamer like me, it can be hard to keep going with changing your habits when these changes don’t result in the ideal results that you dreamed up in your head. The thing is, it doesn’t matter how prepared you are, how healthy, how much sleep you get every night, how often you floss; you can still have bad days.
But life being life shouldn’t stop you making positive changes.
Since reading the article, I’ve been working on developing good habits without getting carried away with fantasies of the perfect life that should immediately materialise with eating more fruit and doing yoga three times a week.
Babauta also suggests adopting a perspective of curiosity with regard to the changes that a habit can bring about in order to replace all that idealising.